Sunday, August 25, 2013
NOT Having an "Ex" is NOT That Shocking: What Should We Think of Dating These Days?
"You're 17 years old and you don't have an ex-boyfriend?! That is shocking."
(this line is from a movie that is about to be released this year, called The Spectacular Now.)
I find that line a little bit offensive and also confusing. Hey folks! Its Emmy.
The teenage boy that said that line in the movie automatically assumed this girl he just met has dated one or more guys previously. Why must that be the mindset and obligation of teens these days? That they NEED to date multiple people throughout their high school career and that every cute person they meet or flirt with has an "ex"?
I am 17 yrs. old and a senior in high school and I have not dated AT ALL throughout my HS career; I have never had a boyfriend during high school or previous to it. This must be "shocking" to most teens out there because today's world is telling them: "You have to date as many people as possible, especially while you are a teen so you can figure out the kind of person you want to spend the rest of your life with." So those teens are usually shocked and surprised when they find out that some people have never dated anyone at all, because they have become so used to doing that-- dating many people throughout their HS careers, and they assume everyone does it these days.
Many teens have fallen into this mindset that they become ensnared in the priority of always being on the look-out for someone to date.
You really don't have to date someone in high school, or while you're very young, just because everyone does it and just because the world is telling you to. Steer away from the trends and patterns of this world. What does God want you to do? Pray to Him, that he will guide you down the path he has already set for your life-- especially down the path of dating/relationships. He is very concerned and interested in our love stories, more than we are. We just have to trust that he will bring the right guy along when the time comes.
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Great post Emily!! You have a lot of wisdom. If only I had known when I was a teenager how much more seriously I should have taken dating. You don't compromise and continue to trust God. I especially wish I had realized how special a kiss was. I did not get married until I was 36, and people make you think that something must be wrong with you. However, as I look back at what I would have settled for that would not have been God's best for me, I am so thankful that He protected me and indeed save the best for me. You just keep praying and watching and when you least expect it, God is going to surprise you :-)
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